And then…

Dear Kathy,

Once again, other than some vague notion that you are unhappy with us, there is nothing for us to understand here.
The last time we actually saw each other and spoke, all 4 of us were having a great time at the cabin in the gold country…remember Mercer Caverns? ….lunch at the old hotel??? Not a cross word was exchanged at that time.

A few days later, from out of the blue, we recieved your email in which you stated you never wanted to speak to us again.

Where did that come from?

If you have unresolved anger from your past, only you can resolve it. If it is left unresolved…it will only lead to further pain and heartache, which will continue the downward spiral.

In your kind heart, you know what the right thing to do is…even though it might be difficult to do. I’m going to suggest that this conversation be removed from email and be had face-to-face. Please call me and lets talk about meeting to work through this.


Once again BabyBound replies:

Once again, you have completely disregarded yourself as having anything to do with anything.  Obviously you want to focus on one weekend and act as though the two situations have anything to do with each other.  That is completely your problem not mine.

Until you can think of this as something you have something to do with…stop emailing me.

And now I think we’re pretty much done.  Thoughts?


5 Responses to “And then…”

  1. 1 katarinajellybeana March 4, 2008 at 4:10 pm

    There are two options…let it go or give them the list. Which they still won’t understand.

    Ignoring them seems like the only reasonable one to me.

  2. 2 dayzofrain March 4, 2008 at 7:51 pm

    I say… give them the list… in email…

    and then explain that unless the reason for farther contact is to acknowledge how they’ve been..that your roads will no longer cross. Be it with a strand of thread or six lane highway.

    Then let them go. They are just another set of people in the world. Make yourself and your husband happy and content. Who needs people who bring you down?

  3. 3 b March 5, 2008 at 8:59 am

    I too vote for giving them a list. I voted for this about 2 months ago..(just wanted to point that out). : ) I would focus on the really big things, try to keep it short and sweet. It sounds to me like your Dad misses you. I’m not saying he’s right..not defending him at all. I think he wants you to make this easy for him…just swallow their bullshit like always and go on. BUT, this could be an opportunity to make some great changes in your relationship with them….if handled correctly. You’re doing great girl..keep it up.

  4. 4 Deena March 5, 2008 at 1:37 pm

    I agree with B. Give them the reasons and then let them deal with it.
    After that, the ball will be in their court…and I hope they respond the right way. It does sound like your Dad is (trying in the best way he knows how) reaching out.

  5. 5 my cowgirl alter-ego March 5, 2008 at 9:03 pm

    i vote list too.

    (but it sucks to deal with this. period.)

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